Dating can be your best friend.
...OR your big enemy.
Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.
Then there's that common phrase, "He thinks with his... You know."
Well it is hard NOT think that way if you are physically unsatisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We make our actions to achieve things and influence the world in a positive way.
I've personally faced one of the biggest challenges and it is balancing the two - my carnal obsession and achieving my goals.
When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don't know what you're doing.
Before you know it, you are spending hours in the park, feeding the birds and cuddling... there's nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS YOU DON'T compromise YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, but so do women.
In fact, it's the nature of a woman to take up the man's time - it's her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there's a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are "givers." They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
Guys have also a urges that can completely take over your thinking.
Both of these things can get of you making the most of your life, your time.
Now take a minute to ask yourself about this, "WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"
Now I bet it is not about "money," or "control over my life," or "lots of my free time."
It was probably something like "relaxation, excitement, feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc."
I think men have problems with how they use their time with women in two ways.
First, they overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much time or money on a woman because they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren't that valuable.
Second, men think that they are "getting" something valuable when a girl spends time with them.
Society brainwashes guys into believing that women are a prize to attain, and that there's some inherent value in a pretty face.
It's not TRUE!
The best thing is to see women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less. They are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE!
Now it is really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.
Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you've been doing them for years.
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