Despite what some may have you to believe dating can sometimes be a real pain in the butt. With so many mixed signals out there, trying to make your way through the dating maze can really be tough. Here are some tips to consider when dating:
A shared sense of humor is important. Try to bring laughter to the date. Try to get a laugh out of the guy. That way you know you've got something. If he doesn't get your jokes what else is he going to "get" about you?
Be yourself. People sometimes try too hard to impress. If they just relax a little, the date will go better and they will not have to worry about any of those little embellishments backfiring later on. The worst thing people do on first dates is lie. They are trying to improve their status so you will be interested in them.
Have realistic expectations about a first date. Some people start planning their wedding and others expect the worst. Usually all this will do is put a strain on the relationship before it even begins.
There is a difference between first dates and the first face-to-face contact with someone you connect with through a dating service or ad. That is a meeting to assess each other, not a date.
If you are comfortable and seem to be compatible set up a date to spend more time together. Remember that the first date is supposed to be fun. You are getting to know this person and he is getting to know you. It should not be something that feels like a meeting with your boss.
If the date turns out to be a dud do not make any promises you will not keep. Do not be encouraging if you feel no interest in further socializing. Be honest and say you feel there is not a basis for anything other than friendship and let your date take it from there. Pick yourself up and move on.
Remember that the first date is supposed to be fun. You are getting to know this person and he is getting to know you. It should not be something that feels like a meeting with your boss. So relax, enjoy yourself, be natural, and go with the flow!
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