Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn't keep around.
And it's quite sad.
There are lots of women that has the potential to become a great girlfriend.
But I had my head higher than my ass.
...maybe that's a little harsh.
But this comes down from TWO distinct problems:
First, I was trying to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I've never fully recovered. But I've stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.
I've accepted what I am.
Sure, I like comic books and video games.
But...
Do you think girls have cooler interests?
Is shopping, getting drunk and Myspace are cooler than what I'm into?
It's all have connection.
What it really need is self-acceptance.
If you don't accept yourself, women won't accept you also.
Can you imagine a woman wanting to be your girlfriend when you don't like yourself?
She will HATE to be with you and not wanting to be around with you.
Because you can't really like a woman, if you don't like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?
Although it sounds easy but self-acceptance is rare. How often do you hear people say, "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"
Based on my experience, almost all DON'T ACCEPT themselves completely.
And I'm not excepted from them.
How you accept yourself is how women find you attractive, and people likes to be around you.
It may be hard to completely accept yourself. There is an old beliefs creep in and saying you are not enough, that you must be more than yourself now.
The degree to which your game becomes better is if you know the degree to which you stop these thoughts.
Because the real game is about yourself and not doubting about yourself. And the game doesn't end after your opener, after a few dates, after "making love." It never ends that way.
Because that's you.
You are not separated from your game.
Your game IS YOU. This game is the degree to which you can demonstrates who you are.
Maybe you think "But I'm nervous and insecure and awkward." I don't agree. That's not you.
That is the indistinct you.
That is you trying to come out, but your ego, your old mental habits stop you from expressing what you really want to express.
Before I proceed deeper, I want first to go to the second reason why I couldn't keep girls around after sleeping with them.
I wasn't aware of shaping.
Shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. You can't shape if you don't know what you want. The extension of self-acceptance is knowing what you want.
In fact, it is self-acceptance, applied to others. You encourage women to do to you what you like if you know what you like also.
You see, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Men usually implicitly tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than the man.
But it's not the woman's fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.
So if you approach and treat a woman like a pedestal, she will act accordingly.
If you approach her and treat her like she's lucky you talked to her, she'll feel that way.
Same through after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.
We go into this heavily in our workshops. I've developed lots of ways to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.
And each woman is different. For example, I may want one woman to be just a mating partner. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.
I used to remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I have.
And how frustrating it was to not see those women again using all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist.
But once I began to accept myself and figure out what I wanted, it all came together.
The Attraction Code is all about finding out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the girls you want to meet, sleep with, and date.
If you're struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.
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