Dating can be your best pal.
...OR your big enemy.
Often, a guy can feel like a slave to his biological need to procreate.
Then there goes a common quote, "He thinks with his... You know."
Well it can be hard to NOT think that way if you aren't physically satisfied.
But men are also goal oriented.
We are doers, and need to achieve things and affect the world in a positive way.
Balancing the two - my urges and achieving my goals is one of the biggest challenges I've personally faced.
When you are single, dating can consume a lot of time. Women will suck away at your time if you don't know what you're doing.
Before you notice it, you are spending hours feeding the birds and cuddling in the park... now nothing wrong with spending a quality time with your girlfriend, AS LONG AS IT DON'T interferes YOUR GOALS IN LIFE.
Goals take time, and so do women.
In fact, it's the nature of a woman to take up the man's time - it's her way of getting you to invest in her. That way if the woman gets pregnant there's a less chance of you leaving (this comes from our caveman days, so to speak).
It is really tricky to manage your time with women. You see, giving their time to women is what most guys WANT to give. By nature men are "givers." They like to please women, protect them, and give them good feelings.
Guys have also a urges that can completely take over your thinking.
Both of these things can get in the way of you making the most of your life, your time.
I want you take a moment and ask this to yourself, "WHAT DO I REALLY WANT TO GIVE TO WOMEN?"
Now I know it wasn't about "money," or "control over my life," or "lots of my free time."
It was probably something like "feeling of safety, good feelings, sexual pleasure, excitement, relaxation, make her smile or feel good about herself, etc."
I think men have problems with how they use their time with women in two ways.
First, they think that the gifts they REALLY wanted to give aren't that valuable, making them overcompensate with other stuff - like spending too much money or time to a girl.
Second, men think that they are "getting" something valuable when a woman spends her time with them.
Guys was brainwash by the society to believe that women are a prize to attain, and that there's some inherent value in a pretty face.
It's not TRUE!
Women are cute, sometimes fun, but ultimately not that important, AND THEY CAN'T COMPLETE YOUR LIFE! The best thing is see a women for what they are, nothing more, nothing less.
Now it can be really hard to break out of this mental prison of feeling inferior to women.
Your mental habits are subtle and hard to notice because you've been doing them for years.
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