Just when I know how to escalate and get good with women quickly, I think of those women I slept with but couldn't keep around.
And it's quite sad.
There are so many women that has the ability to be a great girlfriend.
But I had my head up my ass.
...maybe that's a little rude.
But it comes to TWO different problems:
First, I tried to prove something to myself. I was still a recovering nerd. And I've never fully recovered. And stopped trying to recover. And that's what's made me move past this "proving myself" thing.
I've accepted what I am.
Sure, I like comic books and video games.
But...
Do you think women have cooler interests?
Is getting drunk, Myspace and shopping is cooler than what I'm into?
It's all have connection.
Self-acceptance is what really matters.
A girl won't accept you if you don't accept yourself first.
Can you picture out a woman wanting to be your girlfriend and you don't like yourself?
She will HATE your presence and don't want to be around you.
Because you can't really like a woman, if you don't like yourself. And if you do like her, but not yourself, then you look like a total loser. And who wants to date a loser?
It may sound easy, but self-acceptance is hard to do. How many times have you hear these from people "I don't care what anyone thinks of me!"
Almost NO ONE accepts themselves completely, that's in my experience.
And I'm not excepted from them.
The amount on how you accept yourself is the amount also on how women find you attractive, and people want to be around you.
It may be hard to completely accept yourself. There is an old beliefs creep in and saying you are not enough, that you must be more than yourself now.
The degree to which your game becomes better is if you know the degree to which you stop these thoughts.
Because game is really about being yourself, not doubting yourself. And game doesn't stop after your opener, after "mating", after a few dates. It never stops.
Because that's you.
You are not separate from your game.
Your game IS YOU. This game is the degree to which you can demonstrates who you are.
You might be thinking "But I'm insecure, nervous and awkward." I disagree. That's not you.
That is the distorted you.
That is you trying to come out, but your ego, your old mental habits stop you from expressing what you really want to express.
Before I get too deep into that, I want to move on to the second reason why I couldn't keep women around after I slept with them.
I am not aware of shaping.
Knowing what you want is really just an extension of self-acceptance. And shaping is all about knowing what YOU want. If you don't know what you want, you can't shape.
In fact, it's self-acceptance, applied to others. You know what you like, and you encourage women to be that for you.
As you know, women are very flexible. They have many sides that they can reveal to a man. Guys usually tell women to be selfish, mean, and act like they are better than a guy.
But it's not really her fault. She's just doing what she's told. Women are always looking to men to get a sense of reality.
So if you approach and treat a woman like a pedestal, she will act accordingly.
If you approach her and treat her like she's lucky you talked to her, she'll feel that way.
Same through after mating, if you treat her like she should stay in your life and nurture your lifestyle, she will do so.
This was tackled deeper in our workshop. I've developed a lot of things to shape a woman to be EXACTLY the kind of woman I want in my life.
Women are different from each other. Like for instance, I may want a girl to be just a partner in bed. I may want another woman to be a sugar mama! I may want another one to be a girlfriend. It all depends on what you want.
I remember all the crappy, frustrating relationships I used to have.
I remember all the hookups I had as a young pickup artist, and how frustrating it was to not see those women again.
But when I began to accept myself and analyze what I wanted, it all came together.
The Attraction Code is all about figuring out who you are, accepting and cultivating your character, and then applying that to the women you want to meet, sleep with, and date.
If you're struggling with self acceptance and letting the real YOU shine through The Attraction Code is a MUST HAVE.
